Don't ever feel like you have the right to hurt someone that has never done anything to you. The biggest mistake I have ever made came from hurting someone I knew cared about me but I was too blind to see that they weren't the person that hurt me. It's difficult to see passed the past sometimes, not apply it to the future. Things happen unintentionally.
Don't ever let someone fall in love with you when you don't have the intention of reciprocating the feelings. Love is something that you choose to do, it is an action which can then be turned into a feeling. I strongly believe that you choose to love, just like you choose to 'hate'. Falling for someone who has no intention of catching you is one of the worst feelings, why would you want to do that to someone you care about? I have done this, I didn't have any intention on not following through in how I felt but there was something stopping me.
Don't feel like you need to stay in a relationship or with a person because that's all you know or you're afraid to be alone. If you are unhappy, you are not only damaging yourself but those around you, too. You shouldn't be causing yourself unhappiness. I know this might sound selfish but it is okay to think of yourself every once in awhile. You are human, you have feelings, you matter. Don't forget that. Sometimes you've got to sit back and evaluate your life to get rid of things that hinder you instead of help you.
Don't say words you don't mean. Words cannot be taken back, of course you can apologize, say you're sorry a million and one times. Nothing will ever take back words after they have left your mouth or finger tips. Words cut deeper than you think, so start thinking before you speak..think before you act too. Don't be spiteful towards someone you care about; you only end up hurting them and yourself. If you love someone, you want them to be happy, to enjoy your company. It's hard to enjoy spending time with someone who is constantly putting you down or getting under your skin.
I know this may seem negative with a list of "don't do this and don't do that"s but I promise you won't regret it. Be happy. Enjoy life. Love people. Don't be afraid to get hurt. Take risks. Keep moving forward and don't let your past invade your present or future. Tell someone the way you feel about them without holding back. Don't fear rejection, embrace it. Just because you're grown up doesn't mean you can't be a kid sometimes. Love your friends, enjoy your free time, and take your you time. Until next time…
xoxox
